Tuesday, January 19, 2010

A Sad Day in the Hepworth Home

So, I went in for my 12 week appointment today. We were hoping to hear our baby's heartbeat for the first time at this appointment because we couldn't hear it at my 10 week appointment. I wasn't so worried about not hearing the heartbeat at my last appointment because they discovered that I have a retro-flexed uterus, which just means that my uterus tips back toward my tailbone instead of toward my abdomen. From what the nurse told me and from my own research, I found out that tipped uterus' naturally come forward in the abdomen by week 12, so by around week 12 they would be able to hear the heartbeat.

But today, they still couldn't find the heartbeat with the Doppler. So they did an ultrasound and found that our baby was measuring at about 8 weeks, and the heart was not beating. What more can I say? I'm so sad. It's amazing how in just a few short months you can become so attached to someone you've never even met.

I know everything will be ok. This is just yet another lesson in how God's timing is not our own. How many times must I learn this lesson? But, today I am just sad. Today I will cry. And tomorrow will be another day. We'll just be meeting Baby Hepworth, a little later than we had expected.

16 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry! I hope you're okay! Let me know if you need anything.

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  2. Oh Jami,
    I am so sorry! I too miscarried my first pregnancy. If you ever need anyone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on let me know!

    Liz

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  3. I'm so sorry for you.
    Lesly

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  4. ohhhhh jami, my heart breaks for you. will your plans still remain at starting a family now?

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  5. Oh Jami I'm sorry. That is so hard! We love you and we're here for you if you need anything!

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  6. Jami, I am so so sorry! Let me know if you need anything at all. I would love to help out. I can't imagine...

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  7. I know exactly how you feel. Similar thing happened to me and I had to get a D&C....i sure hope you dont have to go through surgery. My heart goes out to you!!

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  8. I'm sad for you both too. Wish I was closer to give you guys hugs.

    Dad

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  9. Please let us know if there's anything we can do. I'm sorry both of you!

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  10. You're so strong to be able to write about this so soon. Our hearts and prayers are definitely with you.

    It's moments in life like this that remind me how wonderful eternal marriage is. While nature decided it wasn't time to meet your sweetie now, what a blessing it is to know that their yours forever no matter what.

    We love you both!

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  11. I am very sorry to hear that Jami! That is a very hard thing to have to deal with but you have a good persective and will be a good mommy when the time comes.

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  12. Jami I am so sorry to hear that. The thing is, you will still be a great mommy!This is unfortunatley very common. Several of my friends have gone through this and all of them have healthy beautiful babies now.
    If you want to talk,you can call me anytime!

    Love,
    Carly

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  13. Jami, I am so sorry. You will surely be in my prayers tonight.

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  14. Jami, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Please, please, please let me know if there is anything I can do for you. I'll be thinking about you and Squire.

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  15. I know how you feel.. been there. Not fun. I am thinking of you and know things will be better soon.
    Emilie

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  16. Jami...
    I am sooooo sorry. I wish I could take all your pain for you. I know exactly what you mean by feeling attached to someone you don't even know yet. I am so sorry. Please let me know if I can help you in ANY way at all (even just talking.)

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